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How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie
In this time-tested book Dale Carnegie shows us how to conquer worry and anxiety. Via engaging stories that reveal helpful lessons and practical frameworks Carnegie arms you with an array of tools that will help you start living more fully and without the harmful effects of worry. Even though this book was written in 1936 the deceptively simple lessons from this book will help you better navigate the noise of the modern era.
Key Takeaways
Focus on today
“Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance but to do what lies clearly at hand.” – Thomas Carlyle
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Thinking about what needs to be done in the future can lead to overwhelm and inaction. But if you focus on what you need to accomplish today it’s much more doable. It will help you create the future you want one day at a time.
A formula to follow
Frameworks for dealing with worry can be helpful especially since worry destroys our ability to concentrate. Without being able to concentrate not only do we feel worse but we’re less effective.
If you have a situation where you’re worrying about failing follow these three steps.
Step 1: Analyze a situation causing you worry to determine the worst possible scenario if you fail.
Step 2: Accept the worst possible case scenario if it is to happen.
Step 3: Focus on trying to improve the situation so that you end up with a better outcome than worst case.
Why you should care about worry
“The greatest mistake physicians make is that they attempt to cure the body without attempting to cure the mind; yet the mind and body are one and should not be treated separately.” – Plato
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Worry isn’t just something that makes you feel a little worse or makes it less likely that you can concentrate. It’s something that can lead to seriously adverse health effects for your mind body and soul. These negative effects can cause much worse situations with your health than whatever it is that you’re worrying about.
In short worry is not worth the physical toll it can take on your body.
Techniques for Analyzing Worry
Understand the situation
Whenever you’re worrying about something you need to do three things:
Get the facts.
Analyze the facts.
Arrive at a decision – and act on that decision.
One simple framework for figuring this all out is to follow four lines of inquiry.
Write down what you’re worrying about (What am I worrying about?)
Think about what you can do about it (What can I do about it?)
Decide on what to do (What are you going to do about it?)
Start carrying out the decision (When am I going to start doing it?)
This framework helps you get out of your head. It allows you to quickly understand what’s going on what you can do about it and to make a decision and start doing what you’ve decided.
Solving business problems
Similar to the framework above for analyzing any worry you can use the following four questions to solve most of your worry about any business situation.
What’s the problem?
What is the cause of the problem?
What are all possible solutions to the problem?
What solution do you suggest?
Whenever you’re struggling in business go through this framework. You’ll feel better and be clear on what you’re going to do to start actually solving the problem instead of simply worrying about it.
Breaking the Worry Habit
Use busyness
To conquer worry you need to understand that worry is a habit. That means it’s a habit you can break. One technique for breaking the worry habit is to keep yourself busy. When you’re really busy or taken up by action it’s hard to worry. There’s a balance here – you don’t want to mask underlying problems by just keeping yourself moving all the time. But filling up your days can make it easier to not worry.
Don’t sweat the small stuff or the improbable
“Trivialities are at the bottom of most marital unhappiness” – Joseph Sabath
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Don’t let the little annoyances or problems in life cause you too much worry. You can’t eliminate everything that’s unpleasant and the energy expended on worrying about these problems prevents you from focusing on what’s important.
On a related note don’t get too concerned about things that don’t have a high probability of happening. Most surfers fear sharks but how likely is it that they’ll get killed by one? Not that likely. Try to ask yourself honestly “How likely is it that the thing I’m worrying about will occur?”
Accept the situation
“God grant me the serenityTo accept the things I cannot change The courage to change the things I can;
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